When Should I File for Divorce?

Deciding when is the best time to file for divorce is never easy, and most of the time it feels like an impossible task. Although there is never a right time to file for divorce, you can create a plan of action to assist you along the way to make the process a little more manageable. 

Regardless of when you decide to file for divorce, planning is the best key to manage your stress and manage how you respond to the outcome. Read below to learn about a few tips on how to create a plan that will assist you make the divorce process a little less stressful and more manageable: 

1. Reflect on the reason(s) why you have decided to file for divorce: This step is very important because you should explore whether there are any possibilities of reconciliation. If there is any hope of reconciliation then seek a counselor, pastor, or other professional to assist you and your spouse on the reconciliation journey. Divorce is an expensive process both financially and emotionally, and this is not something you want to jump two feet in without being sure that's the last option.

2. Consider what the impact will be on the children and family: This next step is just as important as the first step because this step will impact your interactions moving forward with some of the most important people in your life. If your children are not yet adults, it is critical that you and your spouse ensure that they understand that the divorce is not their fault, and you two will love them the same in two separate households. During this time, you should also consider family traditions that will change after the divorce--the family vacation you take with the cousins and grandparents every year will look different moving forward. Let family know how you and your spouse will do your best to continue the family traditions even if you two are no longer married. 

3. Invest time in gather financial information:  Invest time in gather financial information, especially if you will be restricted from accessing this information after you file for divorce.  

 4. Focus on self-care: Surround yourself with supportive friends or family, set realistic expectations about what you need during and after the divorce, and start creating new traditions for yourself and your children. 

5. Minimize disruption: If possible wait to file for divorce until after a holiday season, middle of the school year, or family tradition, especially if you have children. Nothing is worse than a child experiencing their parent's divorce and being forced to change schools in the middle of the school year and leaving behind their friends. Prepare yourself and your children for the transition to allow for a time of reflection and also create a less emotionally charged home environment. 

6. Find the right attorney for you: Work closely with an attorney you trust to develop a strategic plan based on your specific circumstances and desired outcomes. 

Divorce can be stressful, even if it is not adversarial, so be sure you speak to an attorney about what your options are to minimize your stress during the divorce process. If your marriage has come to an end and it’s time to close this chapter of your life please contact our office to learn how our office can be of service to you. 

You can also book a session with Attorney Ashley Green on Divorce Coaching before you decide to file for a divorce. The Divorce Coaching program consists of a 3-hour online private coaching session. Contact our office to learn more. 

Attorney, Ashley Nicole Green is a certified collaborative divorce attorney who services clients in Houston, Harris, Fort Bend, Brazoria, Galveston, and Matagorda County! Contact the Law Office of A. Green today to schedule consultation!

You can always connect with us via phone 832-844-1677 or via email at agreenteam@lawofficegreen.com